I have heard for years that online friends were not
true friends, only those you know in the flesh are, but I beg to differ for
many Autistics we are more at home online than our non-Autistic counterparts
due to the fact that there is no need to attempt to decipher body language,
tone of voice, etc. in order to communicate, there written word reigns supreme. I have been chatting with people online since
1998 and have never looked back, I feel more at home there than anywhere else.
I have never been one to talk about girlie things
like fashion, hair, nails, celebrity crushes, etc. I cannot understand such
interest/cannot relate, I on the other hand crave chats about nature, animals, politics,
movies, tv shows, and books, the latter few tend to be of the sci-fi fantasy
genres respectively. Have always been
more myself and more accepted talking with guys; they always are interested in such
cool things. Groups I tend to frequent
are majority male, for me this is preferable.
I too have been an outcast sometimes even in groups that I have created,
it is hard for me to get to know people/read people; unless things are blatant
I miss things entirely. I have trouble
entering conversations even in a group of people I am familiar with if I come
upon them already conversing, I do not know how to enter in their conversation,
I tend to hang around the periphery and then just disappear.
Many on the Autistic Spectrum struggle to read
people and situations, subtleties are lost on us. This month above all others
please try to welcome someone into your social group or gathering or online chat and be
blatant about your desire for them to join you - someone who moves and acts
like you do it will be appreciated. Make
a new friend, share a smile, include someone new, everyone appreciates being
part of something bigger than themselves.
In closing, please remember that Autism Acceptance
is more than just you accepting your own Autism or that of your child, but more
so as society as a whole accepting Autistic people stims and all on our terms,
together we can make a better a more inclusive world for all.
Happy Autism Acceptance Month to one and all.